If you’ve never attended a funeral before, you may have heard the term “wake” and wondered what it means.
A wake is a gathering that takes place after a funeral service, where family and friends come together to share memories, offer support, and spend time with one another. While funerals can be emotional, a wake is often a more relaxed and informal part of the day.
These days, many families refer to a wake as “refreshments” or an “after-service gathering.” You may see wording on a funeral booklet or notice that says, “The family warmly invites you to join them for refreshments following the service.”
A wake can be held at a function centre, sporting club, hotel, restaurant, family home, or even at the funeral venue itself. Light food, tea, coffee, and refreshments are often provided, giving guests an opportunity to chat and reflect on the life of the person who has passed away.
Do I Have to Attend the Wake?
There is no obligation to attend a wake, but many people choose to do so. It provides an opportunity to offer condolences to the family, share stories and memories, and connect with others who knew the deceased.
If the family has invited guests to attend refreshments after the funeral, you are generally welcome to stay, even if you only attend for a short time.
What Happens at a Wake?
Every wake is different. Some are quiet and reflective, while others are filled with laughter, storytelling, and celebration of a life well lived.
There is no formal structure or expectation. Most people simply spend time talking with family and friends, sharing memories, and supporting one another.
At its heart, a wake is about bringing people together after a funeral service to remember a loved one and celebrate the impact they had on the lives of others.
